Habit 3 - Putting First things First
The habit of putting first things first is about putting your top priorities first, and taking care of them before you do anything else. It is when you set aside the unimportant tasks, and focus on the main things that are most important. Putting first things first could impact my grade 8 year because it applies to getting schoolwork done, and also physical and mental health. For example, the ability to do homework instead of watching tv is important because you know the difference between what is a top priority and what isn't. This habit is helpful because it allows you to get things done, and keep up with your homework. The habit also helps with keeping yourself happy and healthy. If you are very unhappy or you think you are unhealthy, this is important and needs to be put before almost all of your other tasks because if you aren't physically or mentally healthy, it affects every other aspect of your life.
Question: How can you tell the difference between something that is important and something that isn't?
James is a grade 8 boy that moved towns and needed to switch schools in the middle of the year. The school has made him very stressed out and he doesn’t want to be friends with any of the kids. The stress even caused him to verbally abuse his bus driver.
A strategy for James to use for his stress about the changes in his life is to open up to someone instead of keeping it to himself, or letting it out in the wrong way. If James isn’t happy, a good thing to do is to talk to a family member or someone that he trusts, and talk about his feelings. Keeping his emotions to himself would make him feel very alone, and they would all build up and eventually he would do something that he would regret, which he already did. When he lashed out on his bus driver, that was all of his emotions that he has held inside exploding at one time. This probably wouldn’t have happened if he had let his emotions out in a healthy way by talking about them. Even if the person he confides in doesn’t have any advice, it will make him feel better knowing that someone is there to listen. Sometimes it’s also easier to talk to a stranger about your problems than a relative. So there is also and option of James asking to have therapy, so he can talk about his situation with someone that will only know the story from his point of view and professionally trained to help out people in situations like these.
If you were James, would you speak out about your problems before they get worse?